Parents of NRIs constantly worry for the safety and wellness of their children in a far away land. But, they are not alone. NRIs also want to make the life of their parents comfortable. They are always worried about the health & the well-being of their aged parents who are all alone in India. As most NRIs would agree, getting their parents to relocate abroad is not always desirable or possible. Most parents also prefer to stay in India in their own homes, living independently until they can. All they have a social life here and some sense of familiarity where they have lived all their lives. It is really too much to expect them to start their life in a different country at their age.
But, the fact remains that children are worried about their parents & want to make their lives as comfortable as their own. Here are some of the problems faced by the ageing parents when their children go abroad & also solutions to them.
Quality and Regular Health Care
The biggest worry for the children is how to ensure good medical care when needed. To help overcome this, ensure the parents live near a medical care center, clinic or hospital. A health care service or hospital located close to their homes would ensure speedy treatment should an emergency arise. You can also schedule a regular, monthly thorough assessment by a physician. Provision for in-house nurses for ailing seniors is easy now. These physicians also provide detailed reports on the health and other issues of the elderly to their children abroad. Make sure the phone numbers for medical service providers, hospitals near home are saved in their phones.
There are many Health Care providers in India like Care24 & Porter.
If your parents are unhealthy and need daily care then Care24 can be very helpful as they provide professional care from trained caregivers that help the patient recover at home. Similarly, if your parents can’t even visit hospital for checkup then Portea can be very helpful as they provide doctors, nurses, and physiotherapists for home visits who have passed extremely thorough hiring standards and have had their backgrounds and medical knowledge verified by senior doctors.
Living with other similar age group
First thing children need to make sure their parents have the best surroundings and they are living in a happy background where they can live with independence and with people in a similar age bracket. There are many upmarket old age homes available in India now, which provide not only independence but also the company of similar people to your parents. Similarly, many gated societies in metros have active senior citizen groups. Make sure your parents live in a place where they get ample opportunities to interact with other senior citizens.
Feeling of Self Reliance and Dignity
One thing everyone dislikes is the feeling of being dependent on someone, especially the children. There is nothing more important for parents than being self-reliant and living their golden years. This will give them a reason to live with dignity and respect. With age simple chores and mundane errands like going to the bank, standing in queue for a gas cylinder or paying a bill to become a challenge. Finding a suitable helper for your daily tasks can be a very difficult task for your parents. Then there are the daily chores of cleaning, cooking, laundry, home maintenance, etc which have to be taken care of.
Helper for daily chores
Assign someone for these daily duties. In addition to doing the daily chores, this person will also provide some company to your parents. Additionally, God forbid something wrong happens to your parents, this person will be able to inform you on time, since they meet your parents on a daily basis. So, hire a healthy, trustworthy Helper, and feed your number in their phones to communicate with you. If they have WhatsApp, connect with them on WhatsApp. So, even if your parents do not want to bother you with their problems. this person can give you honest updates.
Now you can find verified Helpers even if you are not present in India. There are job portals like Helper4U that connect Domestic & Office Helpers like Maid, Cook, Delivery boy, Peon, Driver, etc with the employers. You can select a local Helper for your parents while still being in whichever part of the world you are in, interview them on mobile, and WhatsApp and send home to your parents. The process is quite simple: just select helpers using your search criteria, check their availability and connect directly.
Find a portal where Helpers are Aadhar verified and which gives you the option of Document, Address & Background verification Checks on your Helper for your piece of mind.
Even if your parents have already hired someone make sure to verify the Helper. Again, verification is provided by many online portals. So you can initiate Online Hiring of the helper for your parents that suits them well as per their need from anywhere in the world
Make sure your parents have enough standby money for any emergency situation or treatment in your absence of children. Get them a supplementary credit card linked to yours, which they can use in an emergency. Ensure medical insurance with cashless facility for them.
Add them to your bank account for money transfer so that in an emergency you do not have to wait for bank authorization.
Payment of bills (mobile, grocery, newspaper, etc), taxes and other recurring expenses, can now be easily done online.
And, last but not the least, know their neighbors, have their contact details and share yours with them. With these steps, you may get a lot of peace even when you are “across the seven seas” from your parents.